Changing Times…

This morning I saw a Facebook post from my friend Pete. He was writing from a swim meet in Brunei. Now how exotic is that? A middle school swim meet in Brunei? I used to think it was a stretch to drive my son to West Yellowstone for a XC camp.

The genie is really out of the bottle; live globally, play locally. Pete lives in Bangkok. He’s married to a lovely Thai woman and they have a 12-year-old daughter who swims. Brunei? It’s not Spokane, Pocatello, or West Yellowstone but there was a team competition there last weekend that drew 7 teams, including hers.

Pete’s message got me thinking about how much things have changed. We’re obviously older, but even so there’s a new normal here. Places that used to be exotic are “vacation” destinations and there’s an outfitter waiting to take you there. Activities that used to be adventurous are commonplace today – whitewater kayaking, rock climbing, backcountry skiing, kiteboarding – and there are route maps, apps, cell phones and GPS to support them. I called Marilynn from the summit of the Grand Teton to tell her I was OK. Back in the day, the nearest phone was a four hour walk to Dornan’s General Store in Moose, Wyoming.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve scaled back on the adventures, nothing extreme these days – no jumping into Corbett’s Couloir at Jackson Hole, no riding Porcupine Rim in Moab, or climbing down a rock face to reach “Hidden Beach” on Kauai. Nowadays the pleasure comes from finding an moderate pitch of untracked powder, an isolated beach, or a tree-lined one-lane road at sunset, and even these things are harder to find. I remember when hardly anyone skied the uncut stuff, or camped “sauvage” on a beach in Puerto Rico, or hauled a bike over the ocean to ride the back roads of France.

Lynn Campion caught me on the Ho Chi Minh Trail a few years ago (Sun Valley)

Old people have “bucket lists,” because most of them didn’t have a lot of adventure travels when they were young. They were studying, working, raising families, and only had two weeks vacation. Gen-X, Gen-Y, and Millennials (children of the middle and upper class) have come to adulthood with a lot more opportunity, flexibility, and money. I’ve never had a bucket list and don’t have one now. I’ve been lucky. I’ve been able to live my life upside down. As an airline pilot I could have been mistaken for a retired person – half the month off and free passes – and when I was working I was going to exotic places. World geography was part of my DNA. Opportunity and time were perks of the job, and it didn’t take a lot of money to chase my dreams. Living life upside down meant I didn’t have a “real” job until I was over 50, and though I ended up working until I was 75 I always enjoyed what I did.

I love the way it worked out for me, but I confess there’s a bit of envy when I realize that the big adventures are in the rear view mirror. I still like to ski and bike, but I just don’t have the legs, lungs, or mental toughness to skin up and climb for three hours, or mountain bike on a hairy-ass single track with a steep drop off. My friend, Mike Kane, died that way a few years ago and he was one of the best athletes I’ve ever known. The body changes. The balance changes. The vision changes. The reaction time changes. So it goes… literally.

I wouldn’t think of flying down 17th Street in Santa Ana at car top level again (headlines in the Santa Ana Register) though it seemed “normal” the day it happened. I was a lot younger then. Times have changed. My airplane is in a museum, and so am I (in this picture). I still feel great, but there are no more street level jet escapades in my future.

I think I can be excused if I sometimes adventure vicariously through my children and grandchildren. They feel the same way. They ski, climb, kiteboard, skydive, sail, hike, run, surf, mountain bike, fly-fish, kayak, do Tae Kwan Do, play water polo, and star in musical theater. Multi-talented.

Brent Snorkeling at Snowbird

With his kids on the Colorado

Georgia skydiving

Doug you should follow Brent, he knows where the snow is.

Will taking notes at an avalanche clinic

Charlie with his “Birthday Brown”

Diana and Charlie on the skate track

The Price boys in the big city – Go Sounders

Benny says “Watch out Fed I’m comin'”

Lucie Plays “Select” Soccer

Our Three Hawaiian Kids – a Black Belt, an Orange Belt, and No Belt in Tae Kwan Do

Bob Dylan is my age, and he was right when he wrote The Times They Are a Changin’. That was then. Now the change is a reality. Oh, my God, Donald Trump is our President. There can’t be any more dramatic example of the change. When Dylan wrote the song JFK was President. I embrace most of the changes. I don’t want to go back to an earlier time. I believe America is still great and doesn’t need an ignorant, lying, blowhard at the helm to “make America great again” I acknowledge the changes in myself but love watching the changes in my children and grandchildren. Have fun guys and girls. I’m very proud of you and love seeing you kick ass.

Team Bernard-Price-Westerman.

A Bipartisan Friendship…

This is a story about friendship. My buddy, Dennis, and I have known each other for 50 years. We flew Marine fighters, Pan Am airliners, and saw the inside of a lot of bars together. He’s something of a legend among his friends, but to understand our friendship I need to tell my favorite Dennis story. He calls it the “Checkpoint Panzer” incident. I think of it as “Dennis’s Escape from Freedom Run.”

One night after work, before the Berlin Wall came down, our flight crew gathered at the Columbia Club, one of several US military clubs where Pan Am pilots had privileges. On this particular night, there was some drinking involved, a borrowed car, a dark night, and no adult supervision.

Following a round of sea stories and toasts, Dennis left the club and hopped in a borrowed Ford Taunus. The only explanation for what happened next is that his internal GPS failed him. Rather than heading for his apartment he “accidentally” drove around a detour and turned toward the Glenieke Brucke (Bridge of Spies), the East German border on the road to Potsdam. It was definitely the wrong vector.

Encountering no other traffic, Dennis decided speed would make up for other deficiencies. To compound the problem as he approached the bridge he failed to notice the red and white steel crossing barrier, an array of cement blocks, and a cluster of uniformed guards. He hit the barrier with enough speed to shear the top off the Taunus and shatter the windshield but somehow avoid decapitation.

As the car came to a stop in the middle of the bridge he found himself surrounded by armed West German guards and approaching East German Vopos with guns drawn. His good fortune was coming to rest just a few feet short of the midpoint that marks the Eastern border.

I can’t imagine what the guards were thinking unless it was to do whatever was necessary to avoid an international incident. Dennis, by then quite sober, explained to the West German guard that he was a Pan Am pilot.

Incredulous, the  guard had two things to say 1) “Herr Panzer, no one has ever tried to escape into the East before,” and 2) “I certainly hope you fly better than you drive.”  So, having thwarted Dennis’s “escape” to East Germany, they returned him to the safety of the American Sector, ascertained that the car was drivable, and told him it was OK to drive home… “Ja, but very slowly.” The next day he took the car to a body shop, had the roof reattached and later returned the car to its owner (another Pan Am pilot) without explaining the “severance.” And that’s only part of his legend.

If you looked at the two of us on paper you’d think oil and water. East Coast/West Coast, Red State/Blue State, private college/public university, arch-conservative/Berkeley liberal, but as I said earlier Dennis and I have known each other a long time. Lots of similarities and lots of differences but always friends. Dennis was an East Coast guy, born and raised in Yonkers. I was definitely West Coast, but we came together because we were both Marines flying the F8 Crusader in VMF-312.

VMF – 312 Crusader

There were some timeline differences too; I served my time as a Marine before Vietnam heated up and was already off active duty before America waded into it. Dennis, three years behind me and got caught at its beginning. So, while I was in law school and flying A4’s on the weekend, he was flying the F8 out of the Marine air base at Danang.

Checkout our different grooming standards in those years

               The Duke at Danang 1965                      Tequila Jack at El Toro 1962

Following those years in the military we started our airline careers within a year of each other.  We still hadn’t met, but as single Pan Am pilots based in New York, with several mutual friends, we were destined to meet. I moved in to an Upper East Side apartment with two other Pan Am/Marine pilots and that’s where we finally met.

There’s no such thing as an ex-Marine. Once a Marine, always a Marine. and because of that we manage to stay connected. In NY Dennis and I shared a few pub crawl adventures, but it wasn’t long before we took off in different directions. I transferred to San Francisco, near Berkeley where I had gone to school, while he stayed in New York for a while then moved on to Berlin, Sydney, and back to Berlin. He was busy working on the legend, and I always loved hearing of his exploits via the Marine grapevine.

Early in our careers we also acquired nicknames. During his two-year stint in Sydney Australia, Dennis met a woman who thought he looked like John Wayne and started calling him Duke. It stuck and soon he fancied himself as “The Duke of Down Under.” My nickname came under less glamourous circumstances following a late night incident in Berlin. After an evening of tequila shots and trash talk about how screwed up Pan Am management was, I missed a step leaving the bar, stumbled, and fell forward into a cement parking stanchion. Henceforth, I was TJ (Tequila Jack).

Those early years at Pan Am were the golden age of commercial aviation, and golden years for a group of young fighter pilots turned airline drivers. We savored the experience. Four day layovers in Rio, Hong Kong, Tahiti, Tokyo, and Sydney. Shorter but memorable ones in Paris, Rome, London, and Pago Pago. We were young pilots on a tear and behind the cockpit door was a cabin staffed by young women from around the globe recruited for their looks, intelligence, and language skills. For those of us who were single it was a target-rich environment.

My single life ended after a couple of Pan Am years, but Dennis continued on and building on the Warren Beatty-like legend. Pictures of him appeared on ski slopes, in hot tubs, sky diving, and pub crawling from Lake Tahoe, to Sydney, Miami, to Berlin, each with a different beautiful woman and often sporting his signature garment, a Siberian wolf overcoat – living large.

One morning, back in Berlin, I walked into the crew room where a group of pilots were discussing their investments. During a heated discussion, Dennis walked in and the group consulted him regarding his investments. He thought for moment then replied, “I don’t know much about the stock market and I don’t own any real estate, but I can tell you that I’ve invested heavily in pleasure and it’s paid great dividends.” End of discussion.

  TJ in an Amsterdam pissoir (1970)    Duke (and Mom) with Siberian wolf (1975)

Dennis and I bounced around the system for a few years and managed to cover a lot of the bases – New York, San Francisco, Berlin, Miami and Sydney – but eventually we ended up back in Berlin. I spent the last ten years of my airline career there, until a medical problem brought it to an end,  and Dennis stayed on until he was transferred to Delta as part of the 1991 bankruptcy/merger.

While based in Berlin, Dennis met and married Jane Arnoldi aka Jane the Dane, a beautiful, stable, intelligent, London-based Pan Am flight attendant who is his anchor and the mother of their two talented daughters – Tess and Alexandra. I’ve been equally blessed with Marilynn, a childhood friend, and the six talented children we share and of whom we are enormously proud.

It’s fun recalling the early days at Pan Am and our dubious adventures, but as we aged we did settle down. It sounds misleading to say settled down; we have to acknowledge five marriages between us, but we’ve both ended up in happy long term unions. We share a love of adventure and so do our wives. A few years ago we did a week long float trip down the Middle Fork of the Salmon River, and we all still ski and bike. But more than anything we’re grateful for a 50 year friendship, for good marriages, and a job that was like no other.

Good vibes notwithstanding, we have one area of disagreement, but at this point it’s more fun than acrimonious. We are extreme opposites politically.  I’m a dyed-in-the-wool Berkeley liberal, and Dennis remains a unrepentent right-wing nut case. After all, while The Duke was flying sorties over North Vietnam I was writing a position paper for the law school in support of the Free Speech Movement. You got a problem with that?

My friend, The Duke of Down Under is a passionate person. He loves his family, his country, and his friends. We just happen to disagree about the future of America. I’m equally passionate – and I know I’m right – about our democracy. So, we banter and boast, posture and post, but after all the bullshit we are still friends.

Semper Fi, my friend.

As the World Turns… Part Two

Yes, as I said yesterday in Part One, words do matter… and I tossed these out to show which ones dominated the media circus at the end of 2016.

World order. Disruption. Transition. Cyber-Intrusion. Destabilization Post-truth. Twitter.

I should have substituted transitions for the word passages in Part One, because the lives and accomplishments I celebrated – Diane Rehm, the NPR talk show host, and Chuck Feeney, the founder of Atlantic Philanthropies – are not leaving us. They are both very much alive but transitioning to new phases in their lives.

Today’s celebrants are also transitioning, but the death of John Glenn and the end of the Obama presidency are real passages.  It has always been my intention to maintain the long view and remain positive at a time when the news cycle is dominated by sensational sound bites, rising fears, and uncivil debate. I hope you agree that we need to find a way through the noise to a positive outcome.

Of the four transition/passages I picked to write about, only John Glenn’s was a true ending, and of all the celebrity obituaries in 2016, John Glenn’s was more personal and significant to me than most. As a music fan I mourned the deaths of David Bowie, Prince, Merle Haggard, Guy Clark, and Glen Frey, and though I disagreed with most of his decisions I recognized that Antonin Scalia was a major figure in the judicial pantheon. The world was diminished by the death of Elie Wiesel, who kept us from forgetting the Holocaust and Muhammed Ali for reminding us that there is such a thing as courage outside the ring as well as in. There were many more final passages last year, but John Glenn’s signaled the end of an era.

He was a pioneer, a true American hero, and a gentleman. I was first aware of Colonel Glenn in 1959, the year I earned my Naval Aviator wings and two years after he set a transcontinental speed record in “our” airplane, the F8U Crusader. It was my first fleet assignment to a Marine squadron and I was privileged to fly the hottest fighter in the fleet, the same model F8 that Major Glenn had flown on his record setting cross-country flight. By then he had become one of the seven astronauts chosen for the Mercury space program, and the only Marine of the seven. We Marines regarded him as our man in the program and took immense pride in his accomplishments.

In February of 1962, my squadron mates and I crowded around a small black and white television set in the Ready Room of VMF-312 to watch Colonel Glenn become the first American to orbit the earth. It was a proud moment for us, but a larger moment for America.

It wasn’t until recently that I discovered Ted Williams, the great Boston Red Sox slugger, was John Glenn’s wingman in Korea. It’s hard to imagine Ted Williams as subordinate to anyone, but John Glenn was one of a kind and commanded the respect of everyone who knew him – even the greatest hitter in baseball history.

Colonel, then Senator, Glenn was a legend, a friend of Presidents, and eventually a US Senator from Ohio. After four terms in the Senate, the 77-year-old retired from politics in 1998 and returned to space aboard the Shuttle Discovery where he provided valuable information to NASA about the effects of space on the older body.

I admire John Glenn for his pioneering aviation and space accomplishments and his service in the Senate, but it’s his essential goodness that I admire most. He was the most American of Americans. Born and raised in a small Ohio town, he served his country in two wars and flew twice as an astronaut. He married his high school sweetheart, Annie, a woman who had a pronounced lifelong stutter and their marriage endured for 73 years. He died exactly one month ago today at the age of 95. John Glenn will be buried with full honors at Arlington National Cemetery on April 6, 2017. For those of us who came of age in the middle of the 20th Century, the end of John Glenn’s life marked the end of the most remarkable era in modern American history.

Transition, as I’ve noted, is one of those words that makes banner headlines today. The papers and pundits cross their fingers as they discuss “a smooth transition of power” in America’s political life, and government employees cross theirs hoping that the transition to civilian life will also be smooth. But, the last transition and perhaps most memorable transition to highlight is the end of the Obama White House – and the tenures of the Obama and Biden families as its First Families.

This is not a political statement but a purely human one. The Obama and Biden families have modeled the high standards Americans have always said they wanted in their  elected officials, and whether you agree or disagree with their politics their collective behavior sets a high bar for their political heirs worthy of every American’s admiration.

As President Mr. Obama’s legacy is still in question, but there is no question that the two families represent the best of American values – integrity, loyalty, intelligence and love. They love each other. They love their children. And, they love America.

Critics may disagree strongly with the impact of their political decisions, but no Presidential families, in my lifetime, have led such exemplary public lives. There was never been a hint of scandal in either family, and their collective personas mirror mutual admiration and affection. Both families have tried to live as normally as possible. The President made a point of having dinner with Michelle and his daughters every night  before returning to work in the Oval, and Jill Biden continued her career as a community college English teacher during Joe’s years as Vice-President. All four have demonstrated the kind of rectitude, goodness, dignity and, yes, “family values” that Americans say they admire and want in their leaders.

Today, in a special ceremony, President Obama awarded Vice-President Biden the Presidential Medal of Freedom (with special distinction) an honor given to only three other people – Pope John Paul II, former President Ronald Reagan, and Colin Powell.

We will miss both of these families and the examples they set. The nation will miss them too – even if they strongly disagreed with their politics. God speed, as we used to say to John Glenn, you deserve the best of everything. I know your work is not complete and I will be watching as you and your families transition to the next phase of your lives. Thank you.

As the World Turns… Part One

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Words matter… and now that we’re closing the book on a tumultuous 2016 it’s worth taking a look at the ones that hijacked the news cycle at year’s end.

World order. Disruption. Transition. Cyber-Intrusion. Destabilization Post-truth. Twitter.

These highly charged words dominated the cycle and continue to dominate as we move closer to next week’s inauguration of a new President-Elect. I won’t try to parse the dark side of these year-end favorites, or summarize their importance in 140 characters or less, but it’s worth reminding ourselves that words (and actions) do matter, but they matter less in the heat of a Twitter moment than in thoughtful reflection.

This is a look back at 2016 and some personally significant passages – a year-end wrap up in two parts.

Stonehenge came to mind as a touchstone for these reflections, because it stands as distant timeless reference for new beginnings. Long before Galileo determined that our planet circled the sun, humanity looked at the winter solstice as the end of the annual cycle and the beginning of a new one, and whether it was the Druid’s Stonehenge, Egyptian pyramids, or the 3rd millennium B.C.’s Chinese lunar calendar, people have used the turning over of the solar year as motivation for reflection, renewal and rebirth – their own as well as the earth’s.

Taking the long view, the stoney solidity and spiritual mystery of Stonehenge help me recalibrate my capacity for wonder. How did a primitive culture we know almost nothing about perform the calculations necessary to determine the exact angle and moment the earth was reversing its solar cycle? How was it possible to move those 75 enormous stone slabs nearly 150 miles from where they were quarried to the Salisbury Plain, and how did they erect them with such scientific precision that they presented the sun rising over the Heel Stone on the precise azimuth of the summer solstice and show it setting on the reverse azimuth at the winter solstice? We can only theorize about these things and the even greater mystery of its meaning, but when I revisit those mysteries I’m reminded that I’m only a tiny atomic particle in an infinitesimally small moment in the history of the universe.

Archaeologists estimate that the construction of Stonehenge took roughly 1500 years and was completed about 3500 years ago. These facts alone give me pause to adjust my horizon to something longer than the current news cycle.

When I looked at 2016 I was determined to focus on the positive. In a year of unpredictable, calamitous, disruptive events it would be easier to name the electoral event, the death of Prince and Bowie, or the unusual mother/daughter deaths of Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher as the most significant passages, but our current death spiral of negative political news casts the year in a different frame for me.  Rather than focus on the negative I looked back at four passages that reinforced my belief in the goodness, dignity, optimism and humanity in our midst? There are many more, but these four helped me think positively and respectfully about the future – how we might redirect our orientation from fear in the present tense to a positive, humane future.

These passages struck me as exemplary and it made sense to divide their narrative into two parts. Part One (today) celebrates the accomplishments of two people whose contributions remind us that civil political discourse and selfless generosity elevate our innate goodness. Part Two (tomorrows blog) celebrates two more passages that exemplify the best of American values.

diane-rehm

I confess that I didn’t know anything about Diane until 5 or 6 years ago. It wasn’t until I started listening to Sirius XM radio in the car that I heard her radio show for the first time. She was a fixture on NPR, but her daytime political talk show originating from WAMU in Washington DC was broadcast from midnight to 2 a.m. in Seattle. I completely missed it for years.

Her show’s call-in talk format impressed me with the variety of viewpoints expressed by her invited guests and the meatiness and high level of their civil discourse.

From the beginning I was curious about the woman who hosted the show, and her story turned out to be a remarkable one. A Washington native, she began her career in 1973 as a secretary at the local NPR station WAMU. Without a college degree, but smart and hard working, she was quickly promoted to the position of associate producer and within five years had taken over the political talk show. Her tenure lasted 37 years and her audience became a national one. She broadcast her final Diane Rehm Show on December 23, 2016.

When I first heard Diane, I knew nothing about her, and radio can be deceiving. Despite the intelligence she exhibited, I wondered about her background as I pictured a frail sounding older woman. I soon discovered she suffers from a rare disease called spasmodic dysphonia, a condition that affects the voice box and accounts for why she sounded so old and frail. Imagine my surprise when I went to hear her read from her new book, On My Own, and encountered this beautiful, fashionably dressed 80  year-old woman in stiletto heels.

On her final broadcast her fans, including John Dickerson of CBS News and Tom Brokaw of NBC called in to wish her well and explain how her attention to detail and always civil discourse on political matters informed their own approach to the news. But while Diane has broadcast her final WAMU radio show she is not finished with public life. She will continue to tape podcasts for NPR, but her new career is as an advocate for medical aid in dying, or so called “death with dignity” legislation.

Her book, On My Own, tells the story of her 50-year marriage to David Rehm, a State Department official, who died an agonizing death from the complications of Parkinson’s Disease. Terminally ill and unable to feed himself, he requested medical assistance from his physician in an effort to end his life humanely and painlessly on his own terms, but the two of them were unable to circumvent DC laws. Without medical aid, he forced himself to stop taking food and water to hasten his death, but the process was long and painful. Diane was so moved by David’s experience that she wrote On My Own about their journey. Currently, there are only four states that have death with dignity or assisted suicide statutes and she has become a spokeswoman and advocate for the legislation across the country. Her focus and devotion reminds me that there is always work to be done and new horizons to keep in view.

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You wouldn’t think whiskey and cigarettes would produce a model of exemplary behavior, but today’s second passage might make you change your mind. It’s another remarkable passage and one that touched me personally. Last year, Chuck Feeney, the 85-year-old founder of Duty Free Stores (airport purveyors of duty free liquor, cigarettes, etc.) went broke – by design. It wasn’t a headline grabbing bankruptcy or squandered inheritance. Chuck Feeney was and is a philanthropist’s philanthropist. The publicity shy entrepreneur was an early signer of the Bill Gates/Warren Buffett “Giving Pledge,” agreeing to give away the majority of his fortune. From 1986 through 2016, Chuck gave away roughly $8 billion. Today, he lives modestly in a rented apartment in San Francisco.

In 1982 Chuck created Atlantic Philanthropies and secretly transferred his share of Duty Free Stores (roughly $500 million) to the foundation and started giving the money away. Unlike most philanthropists, Mr. Feeney was determined to give away all of the foundation’s assets and sunset the organization in just a few years. It took him 30. His last grant of $7 million to Cornell University was made in December.

In 2009 I went to work for East Meets West Foundation in Saigon. Ten years earlier my friend, Mark Stewart, a Vietnam vet, was doing work as the volunteer country director for East Meets West, and one afternoon when he was in EMW headquarters in Oakland, he got a call from Chuck inviting him to meet in his San Francisco office.

Mark knew nothing about Chuck but was hoping to get a small donation out of the visit. After some small talk and questioning to see if he was a Raiders of ‘49ers fan, Chuck could see Mark’s frustration. Feeney told him not to worry, he had studied EMW and thought the organization was doing good work. As the meeting came to a close Chuck handed him a check for $200,000, and told him that there was more where that came from if he did a good job with it. Over the next 10 years Atlantic Philanthropies contributed many millions of dollars to EMW to build schools, hospitals, and other projects that improved the infrastructure of EMW educational and medical programs in Vietnam. I never met Chuck but his generosity and humanity made my job easy and made the lives of thousands of Vietnamese better. He is a great model for all of us when we consider just how much we really need and how much difference we can make if we share it intelligently.

Tomorrow, in Part Two, I’ll share two more passages that made a difference to me in 2016. Hang in there, I think he’s going to self-destruct. In the meantime read this; we need something to look forward to.

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Beirut to Jerusalem…

Fifty-one years ago, this week, I was in East Jerusalem surrounded by the past, confronting the present, and trying to imagine the future, but I was also energized to be in the place where King David reigned, Mohammed walked, and Christ died.

On Christmas Eve, at an Episcopal Mass in Seattle, I had difficulty focusing on the sermon and though the subject matter was mainstream – fake “post-truth” news and the birth of Christ – my mind was in that earlier time and place. As the Bishop spoke I thought about the Holy Land as crucible, how it was 51 years ago, how it is now, and what the differences mean to all of us.

Israel was 17 years’ old in 1965 – a baby state. I was 27 years old, a baby myself. We were just 10 years apart in age, the Jewish state and I. Its people were ecstatic, determined, and hopeful with thousands of immigrants flooding into the newly established promised land. I was young, optimistic, and seeing the wider world for the first time. But there were signs of trouble; I couldn’t cross the border from East Jerusalem into Israel because the stamp in my passport prevented me from crossing back to the Arab world, and I was aware that though the Jews had their new homeland the indigenous Arab population and thousands of displaced Palestinians did not. I was naïve. I thought everything could be worked out.

I was there in the Middle East mostly by default. After six weeks on the island of Crete I wanted to see more of the Levant and flew to Beirut on a student ticket. On the way I met a small group of Peace Corps volunteers traveling on Christmas leave from their posts in Turkey. In Beirut they were joined by Bonnie Landes, another volunteer, who had traveled from her village by bus. I was invited to join the group and over the course of the next few days we became friends and explored Beirut.

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Pre-war Beirut was one of the world’s great cities. Situated on the eastern edge of the Mediterranean it was a blended culture of French, British, Christian, Muslim, and Arab populations. In the ‘60s it was the commercial and cultural center of the Levant. Oil companies from Saudi Arabia and North Africa were headquartered there. Modern business interests contrasted with the ancient gold souk. French cuisine competed for my taste buds with Muslim halal, and the Casino du Liban featured Paris-like Lido shows with showgirls who were oggled, purchased, and feted by Arab sheikhs.

After a week in the Paris of the Middle East I was ready to move on, but the Peace Corps group wanted to stay. All, that is, except Bonnie who was as curious as I was about seeing more of the Holy Land. When I asked if she wanted to share a ride to Jerusalem she didn’t hesitate. The two of us took off the next morning in a “dolmus” or shared taxi with two Arab locals to drive to Jerusalem via Damascus and Amman.

This new adventure was as exotic as anything I had ever done, crossing from the eastern edge of the Mediterranean, through the cedar covered mountains of Lebanon, and down to the sand colored plains of Syria. The drive was uneventful, for me, but in Damascus Bonnie asked me to change places with her because the Arab seated next to her had active hands. When we rearranged ourselves and I moved to the middle his hands quieted down.

The stop at the central market square in Damascus, where we dropped off one passenger and pick up another, gave us time to look around. I’d never been anywhere like it – the noise, the smells, the sights. There were Arabs in caftans and keffiyehs, businessmen in suits, camels and donkeys bleating and defecating, sidewalk vendors selling everything from pots and pans to Persian carpets. And… a square full of Arab men shamelessly staring at my pretty blond companion.

After the stop in Damascus we continued on our way to Jerusalem and for the next few days, leading up to Christmas, we explored the old city and nearby historic sites – Bethlehem, Jericho and Petra. We looked in on the Church of the Nativity and walked the Stations of the Cross on the Via Dolorosa. At the Jordan River, barely a trickle at that point, we watched American folksinger, Julie Felix, sing Michael Row the Boat Ashore for a documentary film crew while sitting in a rowboat on the muddy ditch that was the Jordan.

via-dolorosaAfter the Jewish state was established in 1948, the holy city of Jerusalem, sacred to the world’s three great religions, was divided in half. The modern Western portion was incorporated into the new state, and the “Old City,” including the holy sites of The Wailing Wall, Dome of the Rock, and the Via Dolorosa ceded to the bordering state of Jordan. That was the situation when I was there in 1965.

I loved the old city. Arab vendors sitting cross-legged on Turkish carpets surrounded by open burlap bags of coffee, tea, and spices. Pilgrims in sackcloth walking the Stations of the Cross with enormous wooden crosses and crowns of thorns. Coptic and Orthodox priests preaching to small crowds on street corners. Hasidic Jews with side curls and black hats walking ahead as their families followed a few paces behind. Tour guides giving their spiels to camera-loaded tourists. It was a feast for the eyes, ears, and nostrils.

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In 1967 that world was gone. The world I had seen was gone in six days… With a preemptive strike Israeli aircraft destroyed the Egyptian and Syrian air forces and exposed Egyptian ground troops in the Sinai to the well-armed, well-trained Israeli military. In six days it was all over and Israel was in control of the Sinai, Gaza, West Bank, the Old City, and Golan Heights. It has been that way ever since.

Many have tried to work out a solution that would accommodate both Israel and the Palestinians who have never found their own homeland. In 1979 Anwar Sadat, Egypt’s President and Menachem Begin of Israel signed a peace treaty based on Jimmy Carter’s Camp David Accords. Sadat was later murdered by Muslim extremists and the deal fell apart. Then in 1993 the Oslo Accords were proposed by Bill Clinton as a setup for a two-state solution, and the agreement was signed by Yitzhak Rabin for Israel and Yasser Arafat for the Palestinians. But, Oslo II was never signed and the plan fell through again. Rabin was murdered and Israel made a hard turn to the right with Benjamin Netanyahu and the Likud Party.

Since then, under Netanyahu’s leadership, Israel has expanded its control over the West Bank, building new settlements in the occupied area and denying Palestinian residents free movement. Last Friday the United Nations Security Council passed a resolution censuring Israel and demanding immediate cessation of West Bank expansion. The vote was 14-0 (including France, UK, Spain, Japan, Russia, China, Egypt, and New Zealand) with the US abstaining.

In the thin-skinned manner of Donald Trump, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu lashed out at President Obama for his “shameful ambush” of the Jewish state while threatening the other Security Council members with retribution. The Jewish settlements are in clear violation of international law, most notably UN Resolution 242 passed in 1967 and agreed to by both sides in laying out the parameters of a negotiated two-state agreement. Netanyahu’s Israel is not the Israel of Golda Meir, Yitzhak Rabin, or Shimon Peres. His leadership style is that of a bully with his foot on the neck of a poor neighbor. I, for one, am proud that my President had the courage to stand up to Netanyahu’s shameless expansionism.

Now what? Jimmy Carter recently offered a solution in his book, Palestine Peace Not Apartheid. Another is being proposed by a Jewish organization called J Street that advocates an end to settlement expansion and promotion of a Palestinian state. Ari Shavit, the Israeli writer of My Problem Land, sees doom for Israel if it doesn’t craft a solution that provides for its Arab population and others displaced by the Jewish state.

I don’t have a solution. I just know that paranoia and aggressive, disrespectful, expansionist behavior is not moving either side toward a viable solution. Today (December 28) Secretary of State John Kerry answered Netanyahu and outlined the US position by offering a punch list of steps that could lead to reopened negotiations and a two-state solution. I believe there are other moderates who are capable of crafting a diplomatic solution. They may have to go back to earlier agreements and appeal to new partners, but nothing will be accomplished as long as the Israeli leadership remains intransigent and inflexible. I understand that the solution needs to ensure Israel’s security, but simultaneously it needs to respect the humanity of the Palestinian people. It requires creative diplomacy, less saber rattling and strong international support to back it up.

Though I’m discouraged by the current state of affairs, my time in the Middle East was life altering. I learned to listen and appreciate how other cultures lived, sounded, looked, smelled and tasted. I learned to appreciate their differences, and I made a lifelong friend in Bonnie Landes.bonnie

Bonnie returned to her Peace Corps post when we parted. She met and married an American-educated Turk, had a son (American college educated), worked at the American Embassy in Ankara for 30+ years and retired recently. We’ve seen each other twice in the years since our days in Beirut and Jerusalem, once in Chicago when she was home visiting her family and once in Ankara when I was on a Pan Am layover.

It’s always fun to see her although there was some serious tension attending the Ankara visit. When she came to the hotel she let me know that her husband was out of town and if her brother-in-law caught us together he would kill us both. And… that was before “radical Islamic extremism.” We ended up talking in my room instead of the bar. Today, she’s divorced and back in the States, although she and her son still have deep ties to Turkey.

I don’t know what triggered the Christmas Eve memories. I’ve been to many midnight services at St. Mark’s in the last 15 years. I love the smells and bells, the rituals, the music, and the vestments., but that night something triggered the memory that took me back to Christmas Eve in Jerusalem 51 years ago and a deep gratitude for both the memories and the friendship.

Epilogue

My one small regret about the 1965 experience is that I don’t have any pictures from that time. My father gave me a small Argus C3 camera when I graduated from college and though I loved other people’s photographs I hated the whole complicated and expensive process of buying film, changing rolls, waiting for the pictures to be developed and then throwing away all but a handful. I gave away the Argus the day before I left on this trip because I didn’t want to be fumbling with the camera and missing the experience in front of me.

Today I’m infatuated with the iPhone camera and use it indiscriminately. I’m only sorry I don’t have pictures from those Middle Eastern adventures. My memories of the sights are extraordinary and I don’t regret the decision to ditch the camera but I wish I had those missing images. I’ve picked a few pictures off the Internet but they don’t really tell the story.